In the material world everyone is looking to satisfy his or her own senses, and due to our nature there is competition for supremacy. Each person either directly or subtly sees the other as a competitor. Our friendships and other love relationships are usually based on simple unspoken agreement in acceptance of the other. “If you rub my back I will rub yours.” or “If you love me according to my desire, I will love you in return” and “you don’t call me on my shit, then I won’t call you on yours.” In essence, one hand washes the other. If the other person can show up and support our projection of our self and at the same time feel that their own projection of their own self is being maintained, then the relationship is considered a success. But if you are unwilling to support my projection, due to my own unwillingness to see me as I really am, I consciously or unconsciously leave the relationship for another who may fit my illusion. I will try to make your life uncomfortable, or I will leave, depending of the level of fear that I need to learn and overcome. This type of relationship is no different from any business relationship. It is based on lack or scarcity, and if our own senses are not being satisfied, in time we will leave.
In a spiritual relationship, God is always the center of every activity and the goal is to work at pleasing God. When God’s sense are satisfied, in return we will also be satisfied. When one has a fruit bearing tree, one first waters the roots of the tree, not the leaves or bark. By watering the roots, the water is properly distributed and the whole tree is fully satisfied. The ability of it to produce fruit is assured. When this occurs everyone can take freely. In our human existence, when we try to satisfy the Lord, in return we will be satisfy regardless of the outcome. It is known that people who volunteer and work for the joy of giving are better workers than those who are only working from paycheck to paycheck. Humans take great pleasure, like God, in serving one another. It is a natural arrangement. In our intimate relationship, the goal is to see the other person as a reflection of the Divine.
“For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33
“The senses are so strong and impetuous, O Arjuna, that they forcibly carry away the mind even of a man of discrimination who is endeavoring to control them.” Bg. 2.60
“A person who is not disturbed by the incessant flow of desires–that enter like rivers into the ocean which is ever being filled but is always still–can alone achieve peace, and not the man who strives to satisfy such desires.” Bg. 2.70
“Everyone Is God speaking. Why not be polite and Listen to Him?” ~ Hafiz
“The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me; my eye and God’s eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love.” ~ Meister Eckhart
“He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.” Matthew 25:45